{"id":5272,"date":"2018-11-12T15:56:19","date_gmt":"2018-11-12T20:56:19","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/lawcomic.net\/guide\/?p=5272"},"modified":"2023-12-16T16:08:12","modified_gmt":"2023-12-16T21:08:12","slug":"52-loyalty-intimacy-and-bonding","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lawcomic.net\/guide\/?p=5272","title":{"rendered":"52. Loyalty, Intimacy, and Bonding"},"content":{"rendered":"\n
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Chapter 2: What Were They Thinking?<\/p>\n

Digression: Government from the Paleolithic to Philadelphia<\/p>\n

Page 52: Loyalty, Intimacy, and Bonding<\/p>\n

SIS (narrating)<\/em>:\u00a0\u00a0LOYALTY<\/u><\/strong>\u00a0is trust (and cooperation) on steroids.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Two women embracing while looking at their paint job.<\/em><\/p>\n

WOMAN 1<\/em>:\u00a0\u00a0I\u2019m so invested<\/strong> in this other person that her success…<\/p>\n

…matters<\/strong> to me.<\/p>\n

It feels like my<\/strong> success.<\/p>\n

She\u2019s part of who I am.<\/strong><\/p>\n

WOMAN 2<\/em>:\u00a0\u00a0I\u2019m not merely open<\/em> to giving her a hand…<\/p>\n

…I really, really want<\/strong> to help her!<\/p>\n

Jack Aubrey defending Stephen Maturin with a broken bottle.<\/em><\/p>\n

STEPHEN<\/em>:\u00a0\u00a0Have I given provocation?<\/p>\n

JACK<\/em>:\u00a0\u00a0You certainly are a repeat offender.<\/p>\n

I\u2019ve got his back, even when that\u2019s not great for me.<\/strong><\/p>\n

People working a farm.<\/em><\/p>\n

GIRL CARRYING WATER<\/em>:\u00a0\u00a0As a community, we\u2019re loyal to each other — we all feel we have a stake<\/strong> in our group.<\/p>\n

HOER 1<\/em>:\u00a0\u00a0We share the risks, as well as the rewards.<\/p>\n

HOER 2<\/em>:\u00a0\u00a0We cooperate for the community because we have skin<\/strong> in the game.<\/p>\n

HOER 3\u00a0(startled by bear)<\/em>:\u00a0\u00a0Literally!<\/p>\n

SIS (narrating)<\/em>:\u00a0\u00a0These feelings aren\u2019t automatic. Trust is learned<\/strong> (and loyalty earned) from experience.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Specifically, from what we experience when we are vulnerable.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Chimps grooming.<\/em><\/p>\n

SIS (narrating)<\/em>:\u00a0\u00a0Our cousins the chimps do this by \u201cgrooming\u201d (picking parasites off others\u2019 backs). They\u2019re vulnerable to attack when they expose their back and head to a potential rival…<\/p>\n

CHIMP 1<\/em>:\u00a0\u00a0Hold still…<\/p>\n

CHIMP 2<\/em>:\u00a0\u00a0But instead of taking advantage,<\/strong> she\u2019s taking care<\/strong> of me!<\/p>\n

SIS (narrating)<\/em>:\u00a0\u00a0This trust-building exercise builds two-way relationships of reciprocal<\/strong> altruism.<\/p>\n

[EDIT SUGGESTION: CHANGE \u201cTWO-WAY\u201d TO \u201cONE-ON-ONE\u201d]<\/em><\/p>\n

CHIMP 3<\/em>:\u00a0\u00a0I scratch your<\/strong> back, you scratch mine!<\/strong><\/p>\n

SIS (narrating)<\/em>:\u00a0\u00a0Which is nice, but it\u2019s no basis for a system of government.<\/p>\n

Chimp grooming Donald Trump.<\/em><\/p>\n

SIS (narrating)<\/em>:\u00a0\u00a0Even though we share almost all our DNA with them, humans are not<\/strong> chimps. We don\u2019t bond by grooming each other… we don\u2019t have \u201calpha males\u201d (no, we really don\u2019t)…<\/p>\n

CHIMP<\/em>:\u00a0\u00a0Do hold still,<\/strong> Mister President!<\/p>\n

TRUMP<\/em>:\u00a0\u00a0Tweetin\u2019 like an alpha!<\/strong><\/p>\n

Examples of human society: Barn raising, big church service, large protest, downtown Manhattan skyline, Napoleonic-era army charging forward, United Nations.<\/em><\/p>\n

SIS (narrating)<\/em>:\u00a0\u00a0…and human society is not<\/strong> chimp society.<\/p>\n

We come together in communities we know practically as well as ourselves…<\/strong><\/p>\n

…and with masses<\/strong> of people…<\/p>\n

…we haven\u2019t even met.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Chimp barber cutting a human\u2019s hair.<\/em><\/p>\n

SIS (narrating)<\/em>:\u00a0\u00a0To form these kinds of relationships, grooming just ain\u2019t gonna cut<\/strong> it.<\/p>\n

CHIMP BARBER<\/em>:\u00a0\u00a0Life\u2019s too short!<\/p>\n

SIS (narrating)<\/em>:\u00a0\u00a0We have many more ways to experience vulnerability and reinforce our trust in each other. For example…<\/p>\n

Napoleonic-era soldiers on the march.<\/em><\/p>\n

SIS (narrating)<\/em>:\u00a0\u00a0We share harships…<\/strong><\/p>\n

SOLDIER 1<\/em>:\u00a0\u00a0We\u2019ve been through hell<\/strong> together.<\/p>\n

SOLDIER 2<\/em>:\u00a0\u00a0I\u2019d give my life<\/strong> for these guys.<\/p>\n

Women sharing a secret.<\/em><\/p>\n

SIS (narrating)<\/em>:\u00a0\u00a0We share secrets…<\/strong><\/p>\n

HEARER<\/em>:\u00a0\u00a0She trusts<\/strong> me with this!<\/p>\n

WHISPERER<\/em>:\u00a0\u00a0I\u2019d be mortified<\/strong> if anyone else knew!<\/p>\n

Woman helping a man with a big blueprint.<\/em><\/p>\n

SIS (narrating)<\/em>:\u00a0\u00a0We share the load…<\/strong><\/p>\n

MAN<\/em>:\u00a0\u00a0I couldn\u2019t have done this without her help.<\/p>\n

WOMAN<\/em>:\u00a0\u00a0I feel like his goal is my goal, now.<\/p>\n

People voting on election day.<\/em><\/p>\n

SIS (narrating)<\/em>:\u00a0\u00a0We share beliefs<\/strong> and practices…<\/strong><\/p>\n

VOTERS<\/em>:\u00a0\u00a0This is how it\u2019s supposed to work!<\/p>\n

Two girls claiming the same guy.<\/em><\/p>\n

GIRL 1<\/em>:\u00a0\u00a0…We share everything!<\/strong><\/p>\n

GIRL 2<\/em>:\u00a0\u00a0Wrong.<\/strong><\/p>\n

SIS (narrating)<\/em>:\u00a0\u00a0None of this is possible unless we can share something more…<\/p>\n

Human-scale cooperation demands that we know more than our own personal feelings about the people we interact with. We need to know how they feel about us…<\/strong> and about each other.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Loving couple.<\/em><\/p>\n

GIRLFRIEND:\u00a0\u00a0<\/em>Intimacy!<\/strong> We can be completely vulnerable with each other.<\/p>\n

Men seeing the couple while carrying a heavy load.<\/em><\/p>\n

MAN 1<\/em>:\u00a0\u00a0Excellent. If he<\/strong> helps us, then we can count on her<\/strong> help, too!<\/p>\n

MAN 2<\/em>:\u00a0\u00a0Not so fast — she faked being sick last time we needed her.<\/p>\n

Gossiping women.<\/em><\/p>\n

GOSSIP 1<\/em>:\u00a0\u00a0That\u2019s just because she wanted to go \u201chunting\u201d with his brother.<\/p>\n

GOSSIP 2<\/em>:\u00a0\u00a0*Gasp* What will the neighbors<\/strong> think?<\/p>\n

SIS (narrating)<\/em>:\u00a0\u00a0We must be able to share our thoughts.<\/strong><\/p>\n

And for the longest time, we couldn\u2019t.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Average Joe and Sis.<\/em><\/p>\n

JOE<\/em>:\u00a0\u00a0Framers…<\/p>\n

SIS<\/em>:\u00a0\u00a0Getting<\/strong> there!<\/p>\n

<\/div><\/div>Transcript<\/a><\/p>\n

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If you would like to learn more, here are just a few suggestions to get you started:<\/p>\n

52. Loyalty, Intimacy, and Bonding<\/u><\/p>\n

Books:<\/span><\/p>\n

Zachary Simpson, \u201cCommunity: Creating Belief with Others,\u201d in The Paradoxes of Modernity: Creating Belief through Art, Community, and Ritual<\/em>, Cham: Palgrave Macmillan, 2022.<\/p>\n

Deborah Tannen, You\u2019re the Only One I Can Tell: Inside the Language of Women\u2019s Friendships<\/em>, New York: Ballantine, 2017.<\/p>\n

Blaine J. Fowers, \u201cThe Deep Psychology of Eudaimonia<\/em> and Virtue: Belonging, Loyalty, and the Anterior Cingulate Cortex,\u201d in D. Carr et al., eds., Varieties of Virtue Ethics<\/em>, London: Palgrave Macmillan, 2017.<\/p>\n

Mario Mikulincer and Phillip R. Shaver, eds., Mechanisms of Social Connection: From Brain to Group<\/em>, Washington: American Psychological Association, 2014.<\/p>\n

Joan B. Silk, \u201cThe Evolution of Cooperation in Primate Groups,\u201d in Herbert Gintis et al., eds., Moral Sentiments and Material Interests<\/em>, Cambridge: The MIT Press, 2005.<\/p>\n

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Articles:<\/span><\/p>\n

Weiwei Peng et al., \u201cSuffer Together, Bond Together: Brain-to-Brain Synchronization and Mutual Affective Empathy when Sharing Painful Experiences,\u201d NeuroImage<\/em>, Vol. 238 (September 2021): 1-11.<\/p>\n

Andrew Dawson and Simone Dennis, \u201cSocial Intimacy,\u201d Anthropology in Action<\/em>, Vol. 27, No. 3 (Winter 2020): 1-8.<\/p>\n

Kyle Green and Clifton Evers, \u201cIntimacy on the Mats and in the Surf,\u201d American Sociological Association: Contexts<\/em>, Vol. 19, No. 2 (May 2020): 10-15.<\/p>\n

Gregory S. Parks and Jasmine Burgess, \u201cHazing in the United States Military: A Psychology and Law Perspective,\u201d Southern California Interdisciplinary Law Journal<\/em>, Vol. 29 (2019-2020): 1-63.<\/p>\n

Ullrich Wagner et al., \u201cBeautiful Friendship: Social Sharing of Emotions Improves Subjective Feelings and Activates the Neural Reward Circuitry,\u201d Social Cognitive and Affective Neuroscience<\/em>, Vol. 10, No. 6 (June 2015): 801-808.<\/p>\n

Brock Bastian, Jolanda Jetten, and Laura J. Ferris, \u201cPain as Social Glue: Shared Pain Increases Cooperation,\u201d Psychological Science<\/em>, Vol. 25, No. 11 (November 2014): 2079-2085.<\/p>\n

Johan M. G. van der Dennen, \u201cCombat Motivation,\u201d Peace Review: A Journal of Social Justice<\/em>, Vol. 17 (2005): 81-89.<\/p>\n

Robert A. Strikwerds and Larry May, \u201cMale Friendship and Intimacy,\u201d Hypatia<\/em>, Vol. 7, No. 3 (Summer 1992): 110-125.<\/p>\n

Feel free to offer more suggestions in the comments!<\/p>\n

<\/div><\/div>View Further Reading<\/a><\/p>\n

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Finally, here is the second half of that page. Had to put this project on the back burner for a spell, but (knock on wood) I think we can get back to something like the old posting frequency.<\/p>\n

Yes, I know this page is ultra simplistic. Just laying a brief foundation for the more substantive stuff that’s coming up in the next pages. I’m looking forward to it!<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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